Why I love being in a relationship in my 20s

Why I love being in a relationship in my 20s
The pros of being in a relationship in your 20s
I’m a 23-year-old and I’m in a serious relationship. Who would have thought it, eh? With so many ‘think-pieces’ and listicles online about why it’s so damaging to be in a relationship in your twenties, I’m surprised I, and many others, haven’t run for the hills.
But there are plenty of non-single 20-somethings out there. Including me. I’ve been with my boyfriend for nearly 5 years now. We met at school, and got together just before we went off to separate universities for 3 years.
But according to self-proclaimed online relationship experts, we shouldn’t have survived. ‘You don’t want to be tied down in your 20s,’ they say, ‘your 20s is all about having fun,’ they write.

But what these people are doing is assuming two major things.

 

1. That being in a relationship in your 20s is a burden that ties you down and stops you from doing certain things.2. That being in a relationship in your 20s means you’re not enjoying yourself.

So why are so many quick to put a negative stamp on 20-something couples? I personally don’t see my boyfriend, or my relationship, as something that limits me.He is in fact someone that encourages me to grow, someone that’s there for support, but also someone that isn’t afraid to tell me how it is. We have fun together, experience wonderful things together and I couldn’t imagine it any other way.

Putting a timeline on relationships is essentially putting unnecessary pressure on something that’s supposed to be entirely natural. There are people who’ll love being single, and those who are desperately finding The One. Then there are those loved-up couples who can’t be away from each other, and those who’ll be questioning whether it’s time to call it a day.

 

I’m lucky that I’m surrounded by friends on all parts of the relationship spectrum. From those who are still madly in love after getting together when they were 16, to the love-birds, thriving on their new relationship, and those that have just got out of serious relationship and are enjoying being young and single.
But none of these people have it better, or have it worse, than anyone else.
Just because I’m in a happy, committed relationship it doesn’t mean that I’m more superior than my single friend. And vice versa. A singleton isn’t necessarily having more fun than me, because they don’t have a partner.
I’m so bored of the constant comparing, the constant ‘you’re wrong if you’re doing this’ mentality of society in general. The right age to have lost your virginity, the right age to be in a stable career, the right age to own a home, the right age to marry.
The list goes on, and on and it’s. so. tiring.
Just stop the dictating, purlease!
The less time we spend nitpicking, the more time we’ll actually have to concentrate on the things that matter – whether that be your relationship, your career, your social life… and most importantly yourself.
Yes, I enjoy being in a relationship in my 20s. I’d be lying if I said it hadn’t been a struggle at times, especially adjusting to moving back home and starting full-time work. But right now, I do feel as though I’m with the right person.
Who knows, I could look back on this post in five years time and think… Christ, what a naive, stupid girl. But right now, I don’t regret a single thing.

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And if you’re a 20-something woman who’s had a load of FOMO nonsense drilled into them, clouding their judgement on a relationship they actually enjoy being in… shake it off now sister. If your relationship is happy, healthy, respectful and mutual – you’re a lucky lady.

 

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